Remembering Dads Who Are No Longer With Us
Like Mother’s Day, Father’s Day is an opportunity to show a little extra love as a way of acknowledging all that Dad does for us throughout the year.
For some though, myself included, Father’s Day is more of a time to deliberately remember our fathers. My father, who I loved very much, passed over 24 years ago, and while I wouldn’t say I still miss his presence, I know for some, the feelings of grief and loss are still very strong.
For me, it’s more that I’m reminded of Dad when I see, hear or even smell certain things. I don’t feel at all sad during these times, because they’re good memories. This year I’m going to create an altar for Dad with some really cute things I’ve come across that I know he will love. I speak in the present tense because I know he’s with me whenever he’s in my thoughts.
Irah has created a beautiful altar to honour Dad’s who are absent from the lives of their children because of death, or because they are alienated from them in some way.
You might like to create your own little altar. Remember that, just like presents, it doesn’t have to be big or expensive, it’s simply a way of remembering Dad, and might just be about lighting a candle, with a memento of his that you treasure.
For those of you who are still healing from the loss of your Dad, I’d like to suggest that creating a little altar for him, while holding him in your thoughts, may actually help you feel connected to him again, and be another milestone in the healing process.
Namaste
Irah & Michelle
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