Mother's Day Musings

MOTHERS DAY: a celebration for some, but for others…

I asked Irah to prepare a Mother’s Day Altar for all those whose Mums have passed away; as well as those who would dearly love to be a Mum, but for whatever reason are not able to; those whose children have passed, and for those who are alienated from their child or children, or even their Mum.

My Mum passed away in her 80s, 12 years ago. We were very much a part of each other’s daily lives and so her passing left a big gap in my life. And while she was a good age and had for some time been saying she was ready to go, it was still hard, particularly on those special days throughout the year, like Mother's Day, her Birthday, my Birthday, and Christmas Day.

In spite of everything I was learning about life and death, thanks to my Inspire Me journey, those special dates were initially a time of real grieving. These days I no longer grieve, instead I remember fondly our mother daughter relationship not to mention the great friendship we had in later years. I also talk to her at different times for different reasons. Sometimes I'm asking for advice and other times I'm asking her and the rest of my Spirit Family to do what they can to help with situations I'm dealing with.

There will be those for whom this Mother’s Day will be the first without their Mum, and there's no doubt about it, that’s going to be tough.

For some, Mother’s Day is spent thinking of and grieving for, the child or children who’ve passed on.

There will be those for whom Mother’s Day is a reminder of their inability, for whatever reason, to become a biological mother. Some will still be trying, and others may have resigned themselves to never being a mother. That too will be tough on Mother's Day.

Mother's Day will also be a really tough time for children whether adult or child, who have been cut off by their parents, or even removed from their parent’s care, for whatever reason.

And then there are those for whom Mother's Day is a very ‘in your face’ reminder of the breakdown of their relationship with their child or children. I joined the ranks of this group of Mums in January this year, and the grieving has been intense, coming in waves that overwhelm. At times I feel like I’m drowning in my sorrow. Mental illness is a Bitch! I’m not going into any details, so please don’t ask.

I believe it's important to reach out and let those who care, hold space for us at times like this. I also believe that at the end of the day, only we can allow ourselves to heal from this pain, and that love, forgiveness, and compassion, in particular self-love, are keys to allowing ourselves to be happy again.

These experiences help shape us into who we are today and into the future, and they are often catalysts for change and growth.

Perhaps when you awaken this Mother’s Day, you can take a moment to send some healing love to all those Mums and Children.

Irah’s altar is so Beautiful, and I can feel the Love she’s put into it. This week I'll be drawing inspiration from it, as I create my own little Mother’s Day altar at home.

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